It all started when a client that I’ve had for a hot minute dumped me. Even tho they said I’m not dumping you, I just need to get my shit together. They communicated with me how they were going to trade services with one of their clients to save money. I understood but I couldn’t help but let my ego get in the way, in the moment I immediately thought what did I do? Have I been making them unhappy? Am I being too much by giving them playful attitude when they want to change their hair every two seconds. I understand the type of person I am. I think I’m not being offensive but my sarcasm is and can be hurtful to some. I made a tik tok– and on the tik tok I jokingly said how getting dumped by a client sucks more than getting dumped by a boyfriend. I mentioned them, again being positive about the situation. That there was better priorities than hair. I never mentioned anything bad. Because I truly did enjoy and had a lot of love for them. I respected the fact that they communicated with me about the “not a break up” they did everything right! And I loved it!
I got a message on Saturday from my ex-client that “did not dump me” sayinh how they saw the tik tok- and it sucks because they did not want to make me feel like I got dumped ( even tho I was definitely getting dumped). But if we’re being honest, you leaving me for someone else is getting broken up with or dumped. That’s what it legit is. Again, no hard feelings! They mentioned in the text that I was out of their budget and their client suggested they trade. Mind you- I work with peoples budgets. We’re adults communicating is important. I can’t read minds. I don’t see your bank statements. This is a PSA if you are on a budget, talk with your stylist. Don’t be on a budget and want Kim Kardashian service. Don’t be on a budget and expect to have Jlo hair. Be realistic with your budget- if you’re truly on a budget it’s as simple as looking for a low maintenance budget friendly hair. Or do what I do, don’t be a blonde.
Back to the text. They continued to praise my work. Because I am amazing! I am talented, I’m in that point of my career where I don’t need validation. I don’t care for likes, or sponsors (even tho sometimes I feel like does this mean I’m a lazy shit- or not a dreamer?-NO, it means that I enjoy my normal, everyday people over fake ass celebrities with their rich people problems? I know I’m the best that I can be. As long as I know THAT.. we .. are.. Gucci! ) Me being their stylist- I took care of their hair the best I could, I always tried my best with their hair goals & I worked my ass off on that head with hair. So as they praised my work, me knowing damn well I deserved every compliment! they finished the text message saying they “wouldn’t do anything to hurt me.” Plot twist. They did. I responded saying how I did not take offense to them dumping me, I said they had to do what they had to do to achieve their adult goals and if leaving me meant that I fucking get it! I’m proud of people who do what they got to do! That’s chingona shit right there. I said I just talk out of my ass and it’s all LOVE! I continued with I just hope all my comments weren’t the reason. If it was I would want you to tell Me. That’s the only way I can better myself. I always want to know if there’s something I said that would offend someone. Because how can I better myself if I don’t know i did or said something wrong. I assured them it wasn’t a jab. That it hurt because it just does- bruised my ego! But I understood her priorities (I feel like I’m repeating myself) they responded with No, I don’t take offense in your comments lmao it’s who you are it’s your personality ppl have to learn that not everyone is the same … you gotta learn ppl and learn how to love them and I feel like I just smile cause I know your joking but your not Lmao
We left it off on a good note. Fast forward to the podcast I have with Cory. BLOWOUTS & BRAZILIANS (we’re on Spotify and apple!) we talked about the whole situation. I did not mention one bad thing. I talked about if you’re going to leave your beauty provider it’s best to communicate. Ofc! You don’t need to explain anything to anyone but as a hairstylist, I’m telling you that we beat ourselves up every single day thinking that we’re not good enough so if it’s time for you to break up with your beauty provider, let them down easy but at least they’ll know that it’s not them and it’s you. Unless it’s really them then speak up because like I said, no one’s going to be able to be better if no one tells them that they’re doing anything wrong. I then messaged them and told them hey, I just want to let you know that I talked about this on the podcast and I even gave you a shout out lol. I didn’t think it would escalate to how it did. The only reason I had mentioned her name was because I thought I was giving a compliment about the whole situation. But I immediately got a message that made me gets so hot and panic within seconds. I skimmed through the long message and noticed immediately that it wasn’t a good idea that I had mentioned them on the podcast. They said that I was being a bully and I was taking it too far and that I was being unprofessional. They said that the TikTok was one thing, but that this was something else, and that they did not need a shout out and then I was taking their kindness for weakness. As soon as I saw the word bully, I immediately freaked out because I never want to make anyone feel like shit. I apologize profusely and told them that I will take down my TikTok immediately and as far as the podcast it was gonna take a minute because we just uploaded it. I called Cory immediately and spoke to her about the whole situation, and without hesitation, she took it down, which I appreciated, but also felt guilty that I was involving her in some thing that was my problem. I don’t know if they listen to the podcast or they just assumed that it wasn’t something positive. Whatever it was I took it down because I could tell that they were upset. i’m a Pisces so I don’t like it when people are upset with me or when they don’t know how sorry I am because it will eat me alive and it will make me feel like I am a piece of shit. After I apologized what seemed like 1,000 times I was rudely left on read.
Cory told me to just give them space. The thing about me is that I get panic attacks and I couldn’t just not explain to them what the podcast was about. Apologizing 5,000 times over and over and recognizing that feeling the way they felt was OK and I understood that, why it was unprofessional for what I did. Now that I think about it, I should’ve never mentioned their name. Again, I was left on read and now I take the hint. The thing about me is I like to communicate, and if I ever hurt anyone’s feelings, I will take full responsibility for it, what I don’t like is people leaving me on read when I acknowledge my wrong doing. I did what I had to do to make sure that I took down anything that was offensive to them but if I really meant something to people they would understand that a simple message back of recognition that I apologize and felt sorry would’ve been amazing. But no, they in fact did hurt me by leaving me on read. Cory asked me if I was OK the next day and I completely forgot I looked at her and said yeah I think I’m OK. Why wouldn’t I ?but then I remembered the whole situation which was no sweat off my back because I knew that I did what I had to do to be sorry, After discussing it with Cory We decided that we were going to keep the podcast and we were just going to take out some parts like names and mentions. It truly wasn’t anything bad and I know in my heart i can say that confidently. I was a little bummed because I thought maybe I should just shut the fuck up and never say anything to anyone because I feel like I always get myself into problems like this. But I’m not going to dim who I am. That podcast was the shit. So up it goes again.
All I could do is wish them the best wherever they go. As for me, I’m taking this as a lesson learned to not mention peoples names.
Moral of the story.. business is business and they are not your friends.
Just being honest- 